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Something is wrong here | Monday, 9 November, 2009

Sometimes, the church isn’t so much about being the church anymore. I came across this article about a pastor committing suicide. This is a sad sad thing and nothing I like reading about or talking about. But as I was reading it, a few thoughts crossed my mind and I wanna share them with you.

~~ This is just a reminder for pastors of any type to make sure rest is included in their busy week. Each week, we need times of rest and solitude, an opportunity to reconnect to God. The job of a pastor can be extremely busy and almost wreaking havoc in their lives.

~~ Pastor’s should not have to suffer in silence. It is ridiculous to think that a pastor of a church should not struggle with the everyday things that people who aren’t pastor’s struggle with. It is ludicrous for a church to demand perfection out of a pastor and when they do, they keep it inside. Pastors internalize their mistakes as not being “good enough” and have no one to turn to. This creates an unhealthy atmosphere.

~~ When a pastor cannot be honest with his congregation, they lose the authentic community that Christ longs for for the church. This comes right along with not expecting perfection. When the church recognizes that the pastor is human just like the rest of them and they ALLOW him to admit that, he is free from that pressure. He is free from feeling like he has to put up a front to his church and to everyone around him. Can you imagine if every church embraced this idea of FREEING their pastors?

~~ Every pastor needs a support system or team around them to help encourage them or help guide them. We all need people in our lives to be there for us to talk with or work things out with. For myself personally, I work better with groups of people. I think better when I can verbally work out my thoughts with other people, hear other people’s thoughts, etc.

~~ If you are a pastor and you think it is wrong to have thoughts that might contradict the church and your faith in God, it’s okay. You’re a human being, you still have a sin nature. Jesus Christ was the only perfect example for us to follow, not you or I. It’s okay if you are struggling with a great theological truth that you, as a pastor of people, are “suppose” to have an answer to and be able to explain to people.

~~ The writer of this article says you are committing career suicide if you have to seek treatment or ask for time off. Unfortunately, this may be true in some cases. But church governing bodies need to take a closer look at allowing retreats for pastor’s several times a year, if not more. At the Covenant Church, our lead pastor just required those on staff to have two scheduled prayer retreats through the next year and actually is encouraging us to find time for four of these within the next season of ministry. This was a great reminder that I need that time to be given energy, vision, direction, and encouragement.

My heart truly aches for David’s family and his church. My prayer is that his family will find encouragement and healing and that God would be glorified in the coming months. Please pray for David’s family and his church as they process this incident and mourn the loss.

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2 Comments »

  1. i am constantly needing reminders of everything you just wrote!

    Comment by christy — Tuesday, 10 November, 2009 @ 9.55 am

  2. That’s sad to hear. The church is a family, and we should feel free to rely on each other.

    Comment by emmilglenn — Tuesday, 17 November, 2009 @ 11.25 am


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